spirituality, The Jezebel vs. The Proverbs 31 Woman

Jezebel vs. The Proverbs 31 Woman (2)

Beauties, this is the second installment in the Jezebel vs. the Proverbs 31 Woman series,

If you haven’t read the first post, the one that started it all, click here.


Our highlighted “Jezebel” in this post is named Lady Potiphar.

The Bible does not specify as to what Lady Potiphar’s first name was. In fact there is only one place in the entire Bible that she is mentioned. We do know that she was a woman who was probably used to getting what she wanted. The Bible says that her husband Potiphar was the captain of Pharaoh’s guard. Pharaoh was the King of Egypt and Potiphar was no doubt a highly respected man because of his position and close association with Pharaoh. Because of this we can surmise that Lady P was used to living a life of luxury and never wanted for anything.

Her story can be found in Genesis and she plays quite a role in Joseph’s life. If you are not familiar with the story of Joseph (not to be confused with Jesus’ earthly father and Mary’s husband!), he is probably one of the most memorable figures of the Old Testament (OT) if not the entire bible.

In Genesis 37:36, we find that Joseph has been sold to Potiphar after a series of unfortunate events (I encourage you to read his story in depth here). The beginning of Genesis 39 tells us that the Lord gave Joseph favor. Meaning that he was blessed! While working in Potiphar’s house he helped make his master a very successful and wealthy man. Genesis 39 goes on to tell us that Joseph “was a very handsome, good-looking man.” In other words, the dude was FINE! He had it going on!! Picture the most attractive guy you can think of (Let’s see….Michael Ealy, Channing Tatum, Boris Kodjoe, Adam Levine, Will Demps, etc.) and he’s probably right up there with good ole Joe!

Here is where our “Jezebel” enters.


Lady P saw Joseph working around her home for her husband everyday and she began to lust after him! The Bible does not tell us if he had worked there for a month or a couple days, but either way Potiphar’s wife had been checking him out. In true “Jezebel” fashion, she was immoral, manipulative, prideful and conniving. Genesis 39:7 says, “After some time, the wife of Joseph’s master began to pay special attention to him. One day she said to him, “Sleep with me.”

Now I don’t know about you Beauties, but to me that’s an OBVIOUS red flag!! Lady P (and I do use the term “lady” loosely) crossed about a dozen lines when she came onto Joseph. So often we hear of men who step outside of their marriages and have “flings” or affairs, but in this case (as in the real world sometimes), it was the WOMAN who made the first move.

Naturally, Joseph refused Potiphar’s wife, but boy was she persistent. The Bible says that she talked to him everyday. I bet she was pulling out ALL the stops and thinking to herself, “I’mma get this man!” She probably started dressing a little bit different, perhaps wearing more revealing clothing and spraying a little more perfume than necessary.  All with the hopes and intentions of catching Joseph’s eye.

The Bible isn’t clear on just why Lady P was so determined to snag Joseph. We can assume that she might have been lonely. Potiphar was no doubt often busy with his demanding work schedule. Perhaps Lady P just wanted to “have some fun”. Either way, we know that the Proverbs 31 Woman does not entertain the idea of immorality of any kind because she is a God-fearing woman.

Our culture today often desensitizes us to immorality. We see so many individuals stepping outside of their marriages that we aren’t even shocked anymore when we hear about the deterioration of another relationship. In the media, the most popular TV and movie characters have multiple “steamy” hook ups and we find ourselves glued to the screen and rooting for them. Before you turn all Super Christian and say, “No, that’s not me!” Take a look at what you watch. If you’re receiving a weekly dose of Scandal (ABC), The Lying Game (ABCFAM), New Girl (FOX) or The Vampire Diaries (CW) you probably have been slightly desensitized! I’m not condemning any of these shows because I’m a huge fan of The Lying Game myself, but we have to be careful!!


Joseph responded to Lady P’s unsolicited advances by saying, “…my master has withheld nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. How then could I do such a wicked thing and sin against God?” Obviously, the lady of the house didn’t care about sin. Not one to be deterred, Lady P went after Joseph yet AGAIN. This time more aggressively and when no one else was in the house. She grabbed him by his cloak (!!!) and said, “Come to bed with me!” Joseph literally ran out of his cloak (basically a coat or jacket), leaving the room in a hurry.

Lady P was probably furious for a couple reasons: 1) she wasn’t used to being denied anything and 2) she probably thought herself quite irresistible. Being the devious woman she was, she began to scream for “help” after Joseph ran away. Her servants came in and she accused Joseph of trying to rape her! Saying, “Look! This Hebrew has been brought to us to make sport [fun] of us! He came in here to sleep with me, but I screamed and when he heard me scream for help, he left his cloak beside me and ran out of the house.”(Gen. 38:13-15)

We can now add “liar” to this ever-growing list of Jezebel attributes!

Naturally, when Potiphar returned his wife told him her bogus story. He was livid and threw Joseph into prison! Lady P had the mentality of making Joseph pay! She was conniving. Thank God that’s not the end of the story for Joseph (to find out what happened to him I urge you to finish reading!). The Bible doesn’t say anymore about Lady P and maybe it’s for the best. I’m sure she didn’t meet a pleasant end. Unless of course she found the Lord, which in that case I’m sure her life strayed from the typical Jezebel fashion of getting executed!

Bottom line: Let us strive to be women of integrity. When we speak, let it be truthful and wise words. Let us not falsely accuse others. People should believe what we say because of our truthful track records. Let us not run and chase after things that do not belong to us. One of my friends often reminds me, “What God has for you is for you.”

You will NEVER have to chase after something if it’s truly God’s will for you to have it. Let us also remember not to chase after MEN who do not belong to us. Frankly, I don’t think we should chase after men period, even if they’re single! I could go on and on about that topic, but another day, another post.

If something struck a chord with you after reading this post, let me know on the Have Something to Say?” page. Also, if you are benefiting from this series and really would like me to continue in it, let me know that on the “Have Something to Say?” page as well!

It is my prayer that you will grow a little closer to the Father today than you did yesterday.

Be Blessed Beauties!




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